It seems a very simple thing to do in everyday life – talking to those around you. But when it comes to discussing your own struggles or any pressures you may be going through, that small act can seem almost impossible.
That’s why today we are marking Time to Talk Day, organised by Mind, Rethink Mental Illness and Co-op, to encourage all of you – our beneficiaries – to talk to those around you, no matter what it’s about.
The day, which is known as “the nation’s biggest mental health conversation”, encourages friends, families, colleagues and communities to come together to talk and, importantly, to listen.
Two firefighters who understand the importance of doing just that are LFB’s Dean Corney and Mark Smith.
The pair organised a men’s walking group in London to encourage fire and rescue service personnel to join together, enjoy a walk and chat to each other. We initially caught up with them last year and, since then, it’s grown right across the UK as more and more services get onboard – making it a national success story.
“I’ve been in the job for 18 years and seen a few things in that time,” says Dean. “I always thought I was quite an open person and I was quite shocked when I sat down and thought about it.
“I realised actually, I don’t talk about anything. I’m a big advocate for getting people to talk, but I wasn’t myself. I thought, how many more people aren’t?”
Dean began working with United Minds, LFBs mental health support group, and – with the support of two female colleagues – he set up the walking group in 2020.
“We’re seeing already, in such a short time, how it’s helping which is brilliant,” he says.
Mark, who helped Dean set up the group, adds: “I went through a bit of a rough time a couple of years ago myself with my mental health and the realisation now of coming out here and talking about it, you realise you’re not alone. It’s knowing it’s okay to talk and I found it really beneficial. It really does work.
“It’s the easiest concept in the world, just turn up, walk around and talk. Simple as that, it really is.”
You can read the group’s story here.
If you’re interested in finding out more about the walking group, or to get guidance setting up your own in your area, you can visit their Twitter page here.
You can also join My Fire Fighters Charity (MyFFC) to chat to others, exchange ideas, experiences and more in a series of dedicated groups.
Meanwhile, we have compiled some simple conversation starters below if you’re keen to help put someone at ease, encourage them to talk, or simply put yourself at ease if you’re feeling anxious about socialising again:
Remember, we are here for you if you’re struggling with your health and wellbeing. Call our Support Line on 0800 389 8820, make an enquiry online or register for MyFFC and visit the ‘Access Support’ tab.
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